Thursday, April 17, 2014

How to Be a Friend on the Autism Spectrum

Lately the diagnoses of autism is on the rise. Right now it is 1 out of 68 and I personally think that we should aware there are more autistic people in the world now than it ever have in last 20 years.I have would give this advice to anyone that haves a friends that is on the autism spectrum or even someone that is on the autism them self could tell their friends also. I would give you the list information to give to your friends

Don’t assume that we do not have a value friendship. Yes, we have problems with commutation and social interaction. But that does not mean we don't want anything to do with having a friendship.  there are communication challenges and trouble with social interactions.The truth is like nerotypical people some of us like myself are extroverted than others and there are some of use that are introverted so it just depends on the personality of the person's interaction. So we also do other value others who want to be our friend for who we are as a person. 

Be patient. This is the problem with some people. If you want to be our friend we cannot follow your flow as you wanted it would be overwhelming us. So my advice to this is that you have to be patient and figure out how we flow when it comes to the commutations and our environment. Also there are some of us that it take us a while to get another people to get to now another person so you have to take the time to get to know that person. 

Respect sensory differences. People with autism are often unusually sensitive to sounds, sights, touch, taste and smells.That is a really important information to remember. Like for me I don't like crowded places to much. A good friend must understand that certain things textures and even smells could be uncomfortable so have to compromise some of those situations to make us more comfortable environment wise. Like for me if I have to step outside since the environment is overwhelming that person must understand that I need to adjust myself.

Don’t treat people with autism like a project.  I would say this did not happened to me yet. It is not cool to treat use like a project or using us like a charity case. We are also have feeling also and do deserve to have friends like everyone else.So I don't want someone to be my freind because they feel sorry for me for being different from the normal. I just want respect like how you respect everyone else. Just be my friend because you see me as a person and include me in events and other things like that.I just do not want people to show me off like that and make them feel like they doing a good deed. Its not really a good dead at all.

Stand up for your autistic friend. Autistic like myself are prone to experance bullying to some degree and there are times. So if you see a autistic friend being teased or bullied it would be nice to take a stand. If you take a stand that means you are a really loyal to that person's safety. Also any form of ableism like excluding the person it not a good thing to have. Like if there is a party or a event make sure to invite use into the group. Don't be ashamed to be around us. We are human just like everyone else. 

Hopefully if anyone can use these rules that I could mention, Then you could be a good friend. Also in one note, I do also have to put out that respect is also a major key. So there are some things that we do that do consider to be out of he ordinary so you cannot change how we stim or maintain our environment. However when it comes to social situations you can help use with some of the social situation. That is all of the information that I have for now I hope everyone could use the tools and pass it to your peers.

Wednesday, April 9, 2014

Lack Of Eye Contact

This subject here is the one that a lot of people need to understand. I can give eye contact to anyone that I am talking to face to face. The problem is that looking directly in the eye is really unconfertable. That feeling itself is like someone just though chemicals in my eye sockets. I also feel violated when people look directly into my eyes. It like looking at my soul and it is so unconertable. I do try my best to do that having the eyecontact. I have to look at something else like the corner of the wall. My issue is that people get mad when I do not give them eye contact. I could hear them fine. I just use my ears to listen to them of course so I could understand what they are saying to me better. It not easy for me to have eye contact however I will try my best to work aound that issue. The conclusion of the issue of having lack of having eye contact is dealing with lack of eye contact does not mean we trying to be rude. It just mean that it just hard for us to give eye contact to people. It also mean that it just having a harder time giving people eye contact. It also mean that we do hear what you are saying. All I say it just to be patent  that it does take time.

Friday, April 4, 2014

Autism Awareness Month

The month of April is Awareness month. The original way of Autism Awareness month is mostly run by Autism Speaks. I never been interested on the organization when i was younger. As I got older I realize from my other autistic friends that the organization it not what it stands for. It mostly like finding cures and treatments. It also does not have any of Autistic people on the campaign. It just does not make many since to me to light the color blue if organization is not involving people like myself. So even though is a month I will detumain to do my best to spread the awareness. I mostly would do the awareness that they are older people that are autistic and we still have our struggles. Like I said before it is easier to assume that the cut off age of having autism is eighteen but realistically we are still going to have it as an adult. I would tell anyone make sure if someone is autistic please make sure to get to know us. Yes we have issues socially and other issues but don't just avoid us. Well this the introduction of what is going on for the month of April.