Dealing with Opinions

This is the problem I have dealing most of my life. I have to pretend to like some things to please someone else. It is a misrable feeling to lie like that. For example, I do not like Pirates and the Caribbean.  To me it was so hard to watch the movie from beginning to end. I have forced myself to watch the other two movies because of the fact it's a popular film and the people that I like talk about it. There are things I like that I could not tell others because of different taste. So I have to suppress my interest alot and it just drives me crazy. I love pop and r and b music as of rock music. So I have to listen to my music when I not with my freinds. I will love to express my interest to everyone it just I don't know how to do so. It just everyone has an opinion and have respect for others. I just wish that that respect applies when my opinions are diffent then the other person.

Update of my life

Hello it has been awhile since I have been blogging. I am in a better place now. I have so much to talk about now than I ever had in the past two years. I even consider talk about my veiws on my intrest and being a disability activists. I hope anyone could stay tune. I also want to know if anyone has questions  please comment on my facebook or Google plus accounts. I hope everyone has a good day.

How to Be a Friend on the Autism Spectrum

Lately the diagnoses of autism is on the rise. Right now it is 1 out of 68 and I personally think that we should aware there are more autistic people in the world now than it ever have in last 20 years.I have would give this advice to anyone that haves a friends that is on the autism spectrum or even someone that is on the autism them self could tell their friends also. I would give you the list information to give to your friends. 



Don’t assume that we do not have a value friendship. Yes, we have problems with commutation and social interaction. But that does not mean we don't want anything to do with having a friendship.  there are communication challenges and trouble with social interactions.The truth is like nerotypical people some of us like myself are extroverted than others and there are some of use that are introverted so it just depends on the personality of the person's interaction. So we also do other value others who want to be our friend for who we are as a person. 

Be patient. This is the problem with some people. If you want to be our friend we cannot follow your flow as you wanted it would be overwhelming us. So my advice to this is that you have to be patient and figure out how we flow when it comes to the commutations and our environment. Also there are some of us that it take us a while to get another people to get to now another person so you have to take the time to get to know that person. 

Respect sensory differences. People with autism are often unusually sensitive to sounds, sights, touch, taste and smells.That is a really important information to remember. Like for me I don't like crowded places to much. A good friend must understand that certain things textures and even smells could be uncomfortable so have to compromise some of those situations to make us more comfortable environment wise. Like for me if I have to step outside since the environment is overwhelming that person must understand that I need to adjust myself.

Don’t treat people with autism like a project.  I would say this did not happened to me yet. It is not cool to treat use like a project or using us like a charity case. We are also have feeling also and do deserve to have friends like everyone else.So I don't want someone to be my freind because they feel sorry for me for being different from the normal. I just want respect like how you respect everyone else. Just be my friend because you see me as a person and include me in events and other things like that.I just do not want people to show me off like that and make them feel like they doing a good deed. Its not really a good dead at all.

Stand up for your autistic friend. Autistic like myself are prone to experance bullying to some degree and there are times. So if you see a autistic friend being teased or bullied it would be nice to take a stand. If you take a stand that means you are a really loyal to that person's safety. Also any form of ableism like excluding the person it not a good thing to have. Like if there is a party or a event make sure to invite use into the group. Don't be ashamed to be around us. We are human just like everyone else. 

Hopefully if anyone can use these rules that I could mention, Then you could be a good friend. Also in one note, I do also have to put out that respect is also a major key. So there are some things that we do that do consider to be out of he ordinary so you cannot change how we stim or maintain our environment. However when it comes to social situations you can help use with some of the social situation. That is all of the information that I have for now I hope everyone could use the tools and pass it to your peers.

Lack Of Eye Contact

This subject here is the one that a lot of people need to understand. I can give eye contact to anyone that I am talking to face to face. The problem is that looking directly in the eye is really unconfertable. That feeling itself is like someone just though chemicals in my eye sockets. I also feel violated when people look directly into my eyes. It like looking at my soul and it is so unconertable. I do try my best to do that having the eyecontact. I have to look at something else like the corner of the wall. My issue is that people get mad when I do not give them eye contact. I could hear them fine. I just use my ears to listen to them of course so I could understand what they are saying to me better. It not easy for me to have eye contact however I will try my best to work aound that issue. The conclusion of the issue of having lack of having eye contact is dealing with lack of eye contact does not mean we trying to be rude. It just mean that it just hard for us to give eye contact to people. It also mean that it just having a harder time giving people eye contact. It also mean that we do hear what you are saying. All I say it just to be patent  that it does take time.

Autism Awareness Month

The month of April is Awareness month. The original way of Autism Awareness month is mostly run by Autism Speaks. I never been interested on the organization when i was younger. As I got older I realize from my other autistic friends that the organization it not what it stands for. It mostly like finding cures and treatments. It also does not have any of Autistic people on the campaign. It just does not make many since to me to light the color blue if organization is not involving people like myself. So even though is a month I will detumain to do my best to spread the awareness. I mostly would do the awareness that they are older people that are autistic and we still have our struggles. Like I said before it is easier to assume that the cut off age of having autism is eighteen but realistically we are still going to have it as an adult. I would tell anyone make sure if someone is autistic please make sure to get to know us. Yes we have issues socially and other issues but don't just avoid us. Well this the introduction of what is going on for the month of April.

Autistic Role Modles

This post that I am writing about is tied to what i am writing about the last time. I said Temple Graindin is one of the few people I do like as a person and someone that motivate me as a person. I have to say that she is not my role model because she mostly into her thing with her carreer with animals mostly the way of dealing with the cows. She also do not that that we should not be fixated in our disorders and being more of a disability activists. I do have role models that are famous how ever non of them do not have autism and it just sad that I could not name someone that is diagnosed that people know except her.

I know historically there are some people that might be in the spectrum like Albert Einstine or Thomas Jefferson or Mozart. However people can't say they are autistic because they are like genesis and stuff and that is not the case half of the time. I just wish there was someone on the spectrum that is a athlete or a singer or activist. Just compare to one famous person with autism is kind of annoying in the way. Like I said few times before I am  different from another autistic person.

I knew some of the autistic people that are famous however only a few people outside of the community knew them. I will list most of them some other time. For now I have to say i do have some people that I do look up to.

I have a couple of autistic friends that I mostly talk to online I do look up to some of them because some of them have like the same passion as I am. One day I hope could find someone that I would one day.

I also hope that that if someone is on the autism spectrum they could also look up to me for inspiration. That is one of the main goals that I would have in the future.

I Not Temple Grandon

I am actually doing my own opinion on this blog I just read like few weeks ago. I actually agree that this person that wrote the blog about this issue mostly in women that is on the autism spectrum. I will post her original blog right below. 

I realize that there are not too much women on the autism spectrum as they much with men. One person that a lot of people knew about even someone is one on the spectrum or not is Temple Granden. I admit I did like her as a person. However I am slowly am tired of people know only her as the famous one and might get compare to. 

The reason why I say this because most of the people will see her books or  movie that is based on her life. When I told some people that I am autistic, some people will ask me you know Temple Granden. I mean I know her when I was in elementary or middle school years. When I heard of  her I was shock and amazed that there was  someone that I older that understands how my mind works. I have seen her talk twice and I do like some of the topics she talked about. She is straight to the point just like me. 

The sad thing is that a lot of people do not know other people that is on the spectrum especially in women and I will talk about that more in detail some other time. I not even close to be like her. People is having stereotypes that autistic people are like Temple Granden and this is when the comparisons come into play. 

I am not like a genus like her. Like I said before I am smart in some things and some things take me longer to learn. I just have the average inelegance. Like I said before most autistic people are not even savant and people would think that we are but it just a slim chance to find someone that is on the autism spectrum and savant. 

Also Temple Grand in is the type of person that is not into relationships and raising kids. This popular culture that autistic people that prefer not to be in the relationships. I did said that is a really big stereotype people used all the time. I mean I know autistic people that are gay bi or even married. There are some people that are not on the spectrum that do not want to get married. It just a choice anyways to be in the relationships. Temple has a choice to choose her career than being in the relationships and that makes her happy. I know autistic people that have kids and they happy they have kids. That also a choice to raise kids or not. It just not or anyone.

I would not say she is not my role model. She does inspire me somewhat. I just wish there is more people on the spectrum that a lot o people knew more. There are more autistic people in the world and I wish there are other autistics I would also inspire but it is so limited of well known as Temple Granden.

 I Not Temple Grandon